INFJ Type Description
By Victor Gulenko
INFJ: The Lyricist
INFJs are romantic dreamers and visionaries. They’re curious: they’re not indifferent to anything that is novel, unusual, or fascinating. Their unexpected, sometimes extravagant behavior and statements leave an impression. They have a refined sense of humor. They know how to comfort a person and how to lift up the mood.
INFJs are emotive and charming; they may smile even when they’re saying something unpleasant. When they’re strongly motivated, they’re insistent in their requests. They know how to pick a good moment to approach someone with a request. They’re flexible with their own time and that of others.
INFJs are attentive to their own appearance and that of others, aware of the influence it has. If necessary, they dress elegantly even exquisitely. When they’re relaxed, they complain about life and hardships. They like to be looked after and for people to be attentive to their worries. They find it difficult to give up comfort that they’ve grown accustomed to.
Without strong directives, INFJs become disorganized and demobilized. They can’t focus their attention on a task for lengthy periods of time. They’re uneconomical and careless with money: they may spend a large sum money on something related to their passions. They may make promises that they haven’t considered well. They entertain themselves to drown out disturbing premonitions.
INFJs use their intuitions about the future to guide their behavior. Because of this, they’re capable of surviving in the most difficult situations. They quickly see through lies, hypocrisy, artifice, and insult. They often act as if they have plenty of time to spare and put things off until tomorrow. They’re inclined to optimism and believe in a bright future. Pictures and visions that they create in their minds are usually much more attractive to them than everyday life proves to be. They can calm people down, instill hope, and inspire them by telling of coming changes for the better. In conversation, they dislike focusing on mistakes of the past.
The INFJ is well versed in nuances and the concerns of emotional life. They’re able to discern when a person is in a good mood before turning to them with a request; therefore, it can be difficult to turn them down. They graciously respond to the humor in life. They tell jokes and anecdotes, act silly, and tease those close to them, evoking positive emotions in different ways. They’re sensitive to fights between people who are close to them. They seek reconciliation and readily agree to compromise. They’ll willingly sacrifice themselves to settle conflicts. They’re internally troubled. They go through a lot, but hide their agitation and bad mood behind a soft smile.
INFJs invest effort to look after their appearance. They know how to dress with style and good taste. Their graceful, aesthetic movements are pleasing to the eye. They’re flexible and adaptable. They don’t impose themselves on anybody. Instead, they put in the effort to adjust to the habits and tastes of the people around them. Sometimes they complain about their health, mistreatment, and apathy toward them; however, in extreme situations they’ll pull themselves together and suppress their pains. In a comfortable environment and around familiar acquaintances, they gain confidence and strength. In such situations, they may even allow themselves to give orders.
INFJs are not inclined to save up money or keep strict track of their finances. They may spend substantial sums on, from their point of view, aesthetically pleasing items that aren’t always useful. If they fall into financial difficulties, they know whom to turn to for help or find something that they can sell. In long-term relations, they don’t forget to account for pragmatic considerations. They have poor relations with people who force them to work at a pace or rhythm that’s unusual or uncomfortable for them. They hope for leniency, indulgences, and “smoke breaks” at work.
INFJs get along with people who are sure of themselves, strong, and determined. However, they don’t allow their relationships to turn into oppression – in such cases, they will openly assert the stupidity and primitiveness of blunt force. They have a good sense of which kind of force to apply to achieve their goals. They resort to forceful methods themselves only when they feel a physical threat to themselves or their loved ones. If they’re in a constant state of discomfort, they begin to behave provocatively, rudely, and aggressively; they do this to hide their soft nature. In the absence of strong leadership, INFJs become relaxed and disorganized to the point of carelessness. It’s easy to knock them off the right track or to tempt them with something that promises pleasant experiences. They easily acquire bad habits that take a lot of effort to get rid of.
When a situation is unclear and ambiguous, the mood of an INFJ spoils and they feel lost and confused. Chaos, disorganization, or a lack of support plunge them into despair. They start acting enthusiastically when they can rely on a thoughtful, logical plan, which is aligned with a clear end goal in sight. They need a variety of designs, schemes, and methods. In extreme situations, they become cool and unemotional. Their thoughts become clearer, and they find it easier to undertake informed decisions. They dislike strict, meticulous control. Constant firm discipline is not for them.
Life values and ideals are one of the weak points of an INFJ. They feel very worried if time passes, compromises and concessions become delayed, and still no resolution has been found. They’re intolerant of oppression and of having their or others’ abilities undermined. They live by the principle of non-interference into the internal world of the individual. However, they can give valuable advice on achieving one’s potential if asked. INFJs are usually very critical of their own abilities and often underestimate them. They’re afraid of being incompetent, useless, or unnecessary. They need compliments and encouragement. They’re good at choosing the most promising of several ideas. They search for an occupation that corresponds with their ideals of service to others.
INFJs support their attitudes with actions. INFJs can do a lot for the people they love. They’re adventurous and enterprising if they feel that they have the approval of others. They regularly perform their duties only when their team has an established system of interpersonal relations. They warn that personal hostility and discord will lead to the collapse of the project. They try to ensure that their professional relations are also accompanied by favorable informal ties. They contribute a harmonious beginning to a group. They persuade people and manage relations in a manner that seems most beneficial to them. They successfully relate to their acquaintances and use personal charm.
Manner of Communication
In interaction, a notable trait that reliably identifies an INFJ is an apprehensive, somewhat shy smile that appears when the INFJ feels agitated or when the conversation subject turns to them in their presence. They’re curious about all that is unusual and original. They’re inclined to sweet chatter about all sorts of interesting trivialities. It’s difficult to focus their attention on the essential things. They disrupt the general line of the conversation by suddenly asking off-topic questions. They like listening to interesting or simply entertaining and funny stories and will recall funny episodes from their lives. They sometimes waver in conversation, becoming coy and delaying their final answer even as they’ve already decided on everything for themselves. They’re inclined to give empty promises. They always find excuses for their non-obligation, for example: “I wanted to but couldn’t” “because of the circumstances,” etc. They like to talk about their impracticality. Even so, they can take up and finish commercial and business projects fairly well. They’re flexible and resourceful, which helps them to keep their position for a long time. They’re not a bad manager or leader, due to fact that they can usually pick reliable associates. They persuade others easily and calm people down who are upset and confused, telling them that not all is lost, that everything is still yet to come, and so forth.
Features of Behavior
Watching an INFJ for some time, it’s easy to notice the following particularity – a contrast between their behavior in public or unfamiliar company, and among familiars, including at home. In public, INFJs always behave gently and politely, not permitting themselves any rudeness or disrespect. But in a circle of close friends they can sometimes behave uninhibitedly. They like to fool around and to create unusual situations. They stir people up to evoke positive emotions. At home, they can be moody, capricious, stubbornly getting their way, and they may put on tears and even provoke arguments. These emotional outbursts pass quickly, however, without hurting them very deeply. Their emotions are very flexible, switching on and off consciously. In dealing with money, they can be a spendthrift, unable to refuse themselves in anything, going into debt if their own means are not enough. They love beautiful, “salon” life and make great demands. They’re inclined to marriages of convenience. They complain about their bad lives and suffering. They like to be cared for, to be healed and treated, for someone to listen to their complaints about their poor state of health, etc. They accumulate complaints within themselves, so that later with a good opportunity, they can spill them out all at once.
Recommendations for Self-Improvement
Your forte is a developed intuitive perception that allows you to learn from the mistakes of the past in order to ensure a better future. You envision the future in optimistic terms. You are imaginative and romantic in nature, enjoying the beauty and art in life. Your creative nature does not tolerate banality and mediocrity. You bring elements of elegance and originality into anything.
You are well versed in the attitudes of people, have a good sense of humor, and know how to use it to improve your own mood and the moods of others. You possess a rich inner world of diverse impressions and feelings, and you’re very dependent on the nuances of your own inner states. You experience heightened, sublime emotions and tend to idealize people. You introduce aspects of celebration and sublimity into the world around you.
Your main problem is that you find it difficult to regularly perform boring, everyday tasks of purely material or pragmatic nature. You are usually not economical with your finances and have difficulty with housekeeping. You find it difficult to resist the temptation to purchase beautiful things, the cost of which may be beyond your budget. Be careful not to waste money on unnecessary trinkets: you are at risk of suffering financially.
Show more restraint in spending so as to not put yourself into a humiliating position when you’ll have to find any ways to pay off debts, even sell your things. Don’t become tempted by your lofty visions and illusions of an “easy” life, while subordinating moral considerations to them and attempting to avoid “the daily grind”. Let your sincere feelings guide you towards the right choice when you have to select between the material and the immaterial aspects of life.
Your other problem is that you are not inclined to hide from others your frustrations and complaints about your state. You can tire others with your complaining, making them distrust the sincerity of your sentiments. Refrain from making excessive demands of others and complaints about the lack of care you receive. To have the attention of others, try to temper some of the moodiness in your character.
Be more generous and show active support for people. Try to earn good favor by diligence and hard work and by active participation in common affairs. Refrain from giving empty promises. Don’t spend your free time in dreams, barren emotional conversations, and analyzing secret anxieties. If you devote more of your time to some real concrete activities, your chances of success in life will increase significantly.